Move Beyond the Limits That Are Holding You Back

Article by Zen Habits contributor Jonathan Mead; follow him on twitter.

We all know that if you’re truly passionate about something, productivity becomes largely irrelevant.

You’re naturally motivated and naturally driven, but that’s not always enough, is it? There’s something else and it’s keeping you from pursuing what you really want. It’s the same thing every time …

And it all comes down to one word: Limits.

What’s really fascinating is how much we avoid doing what we love because of these arbitrary limits.

Sure, we all have nicely organized boxes of preplanned excuses. We convince ourselves that the reasons for not pursuing the things we really want are actually legitimate. Most of the time, they’re not. Most of the time, shrugging something off as “impractical” or “too whimsical” is really just an avoidance of the truth.

What all of these limits really come down to is the difference between surviving and living. Going through the motions instead of moving through life deliberately.

I would rather choose the deliberate path.

This is an exercise I commonly do when I feel like I need to push myself past a plateau:

• Step 1: Write down all those really important things you want to do, but have been avoiding. Leave enough space after each goal for the next step.
  
• Step 2: Write down all the reasons/excuses you’re not taking action toward making those desires a reality.

Take a close look at all of your reasons for not taking action. Are they legitimate? Are they real obstacles, or are they imaginary? Be honest with yourself about what you want. It doesn’t matter if other people don’t think it’s practical; what matters is that you want it.

Now give yourself permission to completely abolish these imaginary ceilings. There are no ceilings; the limits of your imagination are the only boundaries.

So that’s the first part. The second part is moving beyond patterns. All limitations are based on patterns. For example, when writing, I have a pattern of thinking that an article should be written a certain way. I know that what I’ve written has been popular in the past, so I become conditioned to write that way in the future. I might see something become so popular on a social media site and think that I should try to emulate that format now. I also have a pattern of thinking that in order for an article to be worth reading, it needs to be a certain length. That if an article is beyond that certain length, people won’t read it, because it’s too long or too time consuming.

What all of these patterns come down to are limits. Patterns may be necessary for noticing trends and seeing what’s desirable and undesirable. Recognizing patterns in popular pieces of writing, while studying other successful writers, may help you become a better writer. By seeing the patterns of greatness we can emulate and better our own selves. Copying patterns is one of the greatest reasons we’ve succeeded as a species.

But like most great things, patterns have their limitations. If you become too conditioned, you become fixed and immovable. You become conditioned to having a certain reaction to a certain stimulus. You see that you failed in the past, so you fear failure in the future. You notice that that failure happened while trying to pursue something impractical. Now you’ve developed a pattern of seeing “impractical” endeavors as doomed for failure.

See where all this is headed?

It’s easy to get yourself stuck in following patterns because you’re afraid of unknown responses. You’ve seen things go wrong before (or you just have some social conditioning that it’s not a good idea), so you hold yourself back from doing what you really want to do. You sell yourself out because you’re stuck thinking the loop is an accurate representation of reality.

Well, guess what? That loop is just a tiny figment of your imagination. A minute fragment of an event stuck on repeat that has long been extinct (hello, it happened in the past). Life, on the other hand, is more than just a pattern. It’s dynamic. It’s alive. It changing and it’s in flux.

If there is any enemy, it is the groundless divisions of the possible and probable. If there is anything we should limit, it is how many limits we let seep into our lives.

It’s sad thinking that some people keep doing what they’ve been doing, never really living, because they’re afraid that they might be wrong. They’re afraid that their pattern, their idea of what’s real, might actually be broken. Their limits might be mentally conjured specters. And the lives they lived might have been a lie.

So the question is … What patterns are you unconsciously repeating that are holding you back? Are they keeping you from living your dreams?

This article was written by Zen Habits contributor Jonathan Mead of Illuminated Mind. To learn more about how to live without limits, grab a subscription to Illuminated Mind.

Focusing on the Now

BY DR. ALAN GOLDBERG, Sport Psychologist

One of the key ingredients in swimming fast when it counts the most is to stay focused on what is important and let everything else go.

Your focus of concentration on the days leading up to a big meet and right before or during your races will always determine whether you swim fast or not.

What’s most important for you to focus on behind the blocks and in the water is what I call the “NOW.” That is, you need to focus on what you are doing in the moment, one race at a time, and in that race, one stroke at a time.

If you’re worried about your last big meet, this is a PAST focus. If you’re worried that you might repeat your failures from last year, this is a FUTURE focus.

Letting your concentration “time travel” back and forth between the past and the future will make you nervous and undercut your self-confidence. Instead, you need to discipline yourself to stay in the NOW.

If you find your thoughts and focus wandering back to last year or jumping ahead to the “what-ifs” of the future, then quickly bring yourself back to the NOW. Understand that what happened last year is in the past and therefore is totally out of your control. What times you’ll get in this meet are in the future and that too is out of your direct control.

To stay calm and confident, work on keeping your focus in the NOW, both in practice and during your races. Treat each race as a brand new event that is totally unrelated to any race that came before it.

WE ARE TEAM

Something amazing happens when a kid jumps into a pool.  Besides their hair turning green, they learn to cheer each other on, as much as they compete against one another.  They take on newly found respect and appreciation for “aqua mom”, or whoever takes them to and from practice.  And they begin to understand that swimming is not an individual sport, but rather a collection of friendships, memories and achievements that create a family.  A family that has been with you since day one.  And always will be.

This was a little paragraph which I found on the latest TYR catalog which I just received in the mail. I thought it summed up Swimming at Blue Wave nicely...

Mental Fatigue Can Affect Physical Endurance

ScienceDaily (2009-02-26) -- When participants performed a mentally fatiguing task prior to a difficult exercise test, they reached exhaustion more quickly than when they did the same exercise when mentally rested. Mental fatigue did not cause the heart or muscles to perform any differently; instead, our "perceived effort" determines when we reach exhaustion. The next step is to look at the brain to find out exactly why people with mental fatigue perceive exercise to be more difficult. For more click here.