Tuesday, September 27, 2011

ABCs OF MENTAL TRAINING: T IS FOR TEAM BUILDING

BY AIMEE KIMBALL, PHD//MENTAL TRAINING CONSULTANT

You may think it’s odd to find an article about team building for swimming, a supposedly "individual" sport. However, many swimmers perform better when they feel a sense of team and believe that the individuals with whom they train are there to support them and wish them well. As such, team building is a very important topic for swimmers and their coaches to understand.

What’s a team?
At its core, a team is a group of individuals who work together to accomplish a shared goal. Sharing a goal creates a sense of mutual respect since teammates know everyone in the pool is working their hardest to do exactly the same thing. For some teams, the goal might be to win a national or state title, for others it may be to have everyone drop their time by 5% from the year before. As long as they work with each other and assist each other in accomplishing this goal, then they are a team.

Why a swim "team"?
Because the result of a team swimming competition is really determined by individual performances rather than an interaction between team members, many people overlook the importance the concept of “team” has in this setting. What also complicates matters is the idea that you are often competing against rather than with team members, as is customary in many other sports. So, other than needing a team winner in meets, what is the purpose of a sense of team in swimming?

First, teams are important because athletes do their best when they are comfortable, when they feel supported, and when they are confident. Having teammates who will continue to like you as a person regardless of your performance and who you know are rooting for you can help you to have this sense of comfort and confidence. Members of a "team" should cultivate these feelings in their teammates and feel this security in return.

Second, a team is important because it creates a culture when athletes both learn how to excel and are pushed by others to do their best every day. When team members have a shared identity (this is who we are, how we train, and what we are known for) swimmers buy into this culture, embrace it, and become it. Thus, the culture of team (assuming it's a good one) can help athletes to excel.

There are many other reasons why teams are important, but when the culture of the group fosters encouragement, a desire for teammates to succeed, and everyone feels responsible for and accountable to others, then a “team” truly exists.

How to create a positive team culture
There are many ways to foster a positive team culture. First, team building activities should be done regularly and can include pasta dinners, laser tag, or games at the end of practice.

Other than “fun” activities, the following suggestions can help to develop a foundation where a supportive and encouraging team atmosphere can thrive:

1) Captains/team leaders can have an open team discussion without coaches present about the goals for the team and expectations of team members.
    a) What are 3 characteristics every member of this team will have?
    b) How do we define success?
    c) How do we encourage each other?

2) Have a “compete but cooperate” motto. A good team member wants others to do their best, they just want to be better.
    a) A true team member pushes you and competes with you to see who can swim their best time. It's not about beating a specific individual, it's about every member of the team swimming their best.
    b) It can backfire when coaches constantly pit team members against each other in a negative way. Teammates can (and should) race, but constant comparisons and punishing the "loser" can have negative side effects:

  • creates anxiety
  • friends become enemies
  • swimmers may hold back because they don't want to hurt their teammates' feelings

3) Remove classifications based on ability, age, year in school, etc. Often the "good" swimmers stick together and the rest become outsiders.
    a) Do what you can to make sure all team members interact regardless of their demographics

  • Create families (group of about 4 swimmers from different grades/events/ability levels)
  • Secret supports
  • Goal buddies/big brother-big sister

There's an M and an E
You’ve all heard the saying, “There is no ‘I’ in team”, but there is an M and an E (me!). To be a team, every team member needs to look at themselves and ask what they contribute to the team and what they can do to make their teammates better. A team is created when individuals who train together know they are accountable to others and work to be a positive influence on those around them.

Make it great!

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Athletes "Do you have Winning Parents?"

Reprinted from Competitive Advantage – Sports Psychology Services and Resources http://www.competitivedge.com/questionnaire_athletes2.htm

If your parents are too involved in your sport, they can make your life miserable, kill your enjoyment and absolutely ruin your athletic performance. Pushy parents can cause choking and other performance problems, and turn you into a sports dropout statistic. While many over-involved parents mean well and may tell you that they are doing all this for you, the fact of the matter is that they have lost perspective on your sport and are responding to their own needs and feelings. While you need your parents’ love and support to become successful, it will be almost impossible for you to reach your athletic dreams with parents who are over-involved. A parent’s major role on your “team”, (parent, athlete, coach) is to be unconditionally supportive. That is, to love and support you regardless of how you perform. Winning parents are their kids “best fans.” They are there for you no matter what the outcome. Take the following questionnaire to find out whether you have winning parents:

Answer each question with a 1, 2, 3, or 4: 1 = never true; 2 = occasionally true; 3 = mostly true; 4 = always true.

  1. My parents make it easy for me to really enjoy my sport.

  2. I love having my parents come to my competitions.

  3. I don’t feel any pressure from my parents when I compete.

  4. My parent(s) doesn’t tell me what I did wrong after I perform.

  5. I never worry about disappointing my mom/dad.

  6. My parent(s) spends time with me before I compete getting me ready.

  7. My parent(s) pushes me to practice and train.

  8. I fight with my parent(s) about my sport.

  9. My parent(s) comes to all my practices.

  10. When I work with my coach my parents make sure to tell me what I’m doing wrong.

  11. My parents get upset with me when I lose or play badly.

  12. When it comes to my sport, my parents just want me to be happy.

  13. After my games my parents won’t leave me alone and insist on going over and over what happened.

  14. I think about quitting my sport.

  15. My parents criticize the coach and his/her decisions.

  16. After I mess up I worry about what my parents are thinking.

  17. My parents are my very best fans.

  18. My parents let me take full responsibility for my sport.

  19. My parent(s) compares me to my teammates and opponents.

  20. I am embarrassed by what my parents say to me, the coaches and/or refs.

  21. My parents think it’s their job to motivate me.

  22. When I fail my parents are supportive and don’t criticize me.

  23. As far as my sport goes, my parents need to get their own life.

  24. Even though I don’t ask them to, my parent(s) keeps statistics/log book of my performances and outcomes.

  25. I feel nervous when my parents watch me.

SCORING

Subtract the scores for questions 1 - 5, 12, 17, 18 & 22: (if you answered question #1 with an “always true”, the point total you’d subtract would be a 4.) Add the scores for the remaining questions: (If you answered mostly true for question #14, the point total you’d add would be a 3.)

INTERPRETATION

The lower the score, the more supportive are your parents. If you scored your parents between a:

55 - 46 = VERY non-supportive, destructive-to-your-sport (Parents who have a significant problem and are totally living out their own life through your sports.)

45 - 30 = Generally Non-supportive and pushy parents. Will not help you reach your athletic dreams because of their misguided efforts to “help.”

29 - 14 = Educable, well meaning, although somewhat inconsistent in their support. Sometimes can be helpful, but more often aren’t.

13 - 0 = VERY supportive, positive parents. Doing almost everything right for you. Have your sport in perspective. Be grateful to them!

1 - 20 = WINNING PARENTS, Clone them! The best. Olympic caliber parents!